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Many of us look upon dating as this alien concept typically because we are dealing with emotions and a situation which we are not typically accustomed to. Dating is a very stressful process although like any other great challenge it is extremely rewarding as well when we manage to achieve success with it. A major reason as to why people struggle so horribly is that they are unsure what to talk about and so (given that the overwhelming majority of us seem to be allergic to silence) in attempt to fill the void, they talk about the first thing that come to mind. Literally. They open their mouth and just let the words fly from the tip of their tongue with nary a thought as to the implications and effects of what they have to say.

No one likes a show off or a blowhard, and so if you boast the only person you are impressing is yourself because the listener will be only too aware that you are talking a load of hot air and it shows a lot more about your personality than you might think: it shows that you are needy, insecure and self-conscious. Boasting is the last place of refuge for the person with little in the way of accomplishment or academic prowess, and it is interesting to note that people with power and money do not seem to feel the need to make ostentatious displays of either.

A date will involve two people sharing and enjoying each other’s company and so it is perfectly understandable that we want to make sure that we make as much of a positive impression as possible. That said, we need to ensure that we tread a very fine line between presenting ourselves in the best light possible and actually crossing over to the realm of outright boasting.

Related to boasting is the issue of narcissism or self-centeredness which is by far, one of the most cardinal of all dating sins.  If you spend the entire duration of the date talking about yourself then you can be rest assured that you will not be getting a second date. That said, you can always take comfort from the fact that because you seem to love yourself so much, at least your in good company!

Guys, although we are told that we should spoil our date and really make a fuss of her, be very careful about taking her to a five star, gourmet restaurant. If this is out of her comfort zone then she will not appreciate the gesture, instead she will be embarrassed at her lack of knowledge about the etiquette required for the dinner. These restaurants tend to be overly formal as well and so this means that there is a strict dress code: again this maybe an issue for her as it maybe out of her comfort zone.

Many guys choose a top star restaurant as a dating location because they want to impress the lady, guys as a little bit of advice: keep it simple, keep it sincere. The best to success in the dating game is to make sure you actually pay attention to your date, and so the lady will appreciate the fact you like her jewellery or her perfume a lot more than the fact you have spent $300 on a bottle of wine for her.

Tying in with the issue of gifts: guys if you hand over a gift, please do so without any strings attached. In other words, just because you give a lady a ring does not obligate her to sleep with you.